I have been aware for a number of years how using recreational chemicals can impede the development of closeness in couples. The last 2 weeks in the office have really brought this home. When you are high and your special one is not, he/she is likely to withdraw from you. You don’t see the changes in yourself or the relationship because your perceptions are altered. It only takes a few drinks or tokes to change the energy between you both. You feel that you are “more yourself” or more relaxed and are likely to deny that this is a problem. It is doesn’t meet...